Mentally Fit     Q&A Forum
with Shannon Feather

Shannon,

What are some ways I can control my anger? It is now affecting my personal and professional relationships.

Everybody experiences anger at one time or another. The key word here for you is control. Ask yourself “Why do I feel out of control?”, or “Why do I need to be in control of whatever or whoever is causing me anger?”  Write down your answer. Go a little deeper and clarify if your need to be in control is a result of you feeling pain or fear about something. Anger usually stems from one or both of these emotions so it is important for you to get emotionally in touch with yourself. The anger in and of itself is not an emotion, but your reaction and physical expression of fear or pain and an attempt to relieve the discomfort it. Unfortunately, when you project your anger on others it may cause them to experience one or both of these feelings too. If they are not emotionally in touch with themselves you have a vicious circle that can become very unhealthy and destructive.

Take control of yourself! From now on when you experience anger say to yourself “I will take a long walk and remove myself from this situation”, or “I will do something I enjoy until I can handle this issue constructively.” Always communicate to others your intentions so your actions are understood. Seek out an anger management group if necessary and be self responsible.

Shannon,

How do I get enough courage to quit my job and start my own business?

Change the word “courage” in your mind to “prepare”. Ask yourself am I prepared to quit my job and start my own business? If not, then start getting prepared one step at a time. When you are properly organized and ready, the transition itself should occur naturally and easily. Begin now by setting a clear and realistic goal for yourself.  Develop a detailed business plan.  Create a timeline and investigate your financial resources. Preparation ensures success.

Shannon,

I am 45 years old and beginning to experience some short term memory loss. I take good care of myself and am physically fit. What can I do to keep my brain fit?

Fortunately there are many things you can do to keep your mind in tip top shape. The term “use it or lose it” not only applies to physical, but also to mental competence. Commit to exercising your mind at least thirty minutes a day. This can be fun and is easy to do. Your mental exercise routine can include crossword puzzles; not only do they work your mind, they make you smarter. You may do number puzzles, word searches, play scrabble and combine social interaction with mind exercise. If puzzles and games don’t interest you find something new to learn.  Challenge yourself by starting a new craft, learning a second language, etc. Limit the time in front the television as much as possible, and eat memory foods such as fruits, vegetables and grains that are rich with antioxidants.

Shannon,

How do I handle stress so it doesn’t affect my health?

Attitude is everything here. Your attitude determines how you handle stress or how it handles you. It’s time to get optimistic in your life. People with a more positive attitude tend to have a more positive life as a result. From this moment forward always choose to believe something good will happen. In times of uncertainty expect the best and develop a “cup is half full” attitude. One easy way to get yourself on the road to positive thinking and releasing stress is to write down three things you are grateful for every morning before you step out of bed. Start every day off on the right foot. You can also practice “thought stopping”. Every time you become aware of stressful or negative thinking, imagine a big red stop sign in your mind and then replace that thought with a positive statement. With a little time and persistence you will be smiling and feeling better than ever.