When A Loved One Becomes Ill
It is very difficult when dealing with a family member who has a severe illness. The emotion that overcomes us is often unbearable. This is made much worse when the ill person is your confidant, a person on whom you lean when times are hard. Now, at one of the hardest times of your life, they are too ill to be that strong shoulder you've depended on for many years. I empathize with you.
The first thing is remember to breath, and understand that you are not alone. You will deal with this by finding inner strength, compassion and courage you never thought you had. Take this one moment at a time, hold on to that love you have and know this is all part of life's bigger plan. When you don't know what to do next, try to follow your heart. If you need a break, take a break, you are no good to yourself or your loved one completely drained, and it's ok to laugh amid times of sorrow. Laughing is a great way to cope when times are too much for us to handle.
Stress may also come across as anger directed toward a friend. They will understand. Just apologize and move on. People often will do dumb things when times are this tough. It is easy to focus on these actions rather then the illness that causes such grief. Try not to focus on the actions of others; forgive inappropriate behavior when you can. You will do irrational things also, so forgive yourself as you forgive others.
Briefly, when going to medical appointments, bring a friend and a notepad. Ask questions and listen to the answers. If you don't understand what is being said, please ask more questions. Sorry for the heavy subject matter, just felt someone needed this.
Steven J. Schutz, PA-C is the owner of Temecula 24-Hour Urgent Care. He can be reached at…